“Would you rather have armpit hair so long it reached to your toes… but you could braid it and you always smelled good… or normal length armpit hair but you always have terrible body odor? “… and so begins our Mommy/Kids date night!
I am always looking for ways to create fun memories with my kids… ones that they will think about long after I’m gone and will make them remember how much I love them… building memories to outlast me!
Part of what makes it a *date night*, for us, is that it’s done during a time they would normally be sleeping. So it’s a treat no matter what we do because they are up past their bedtime! You can do something totally extravagant in the middle of the day and yet running to the local 24hr family joint will beat it out every time because it was done in the middle of the night! Spend a few bucks on a coke, sit down, and talk for an hour or three – listen – bring your crazy – you won’t regret it!!!
We take the time to reintroduce ourselves to each other. Yep, we are together 24 hours a day, 7 days a week but you will be AMAZED at what happens when you sit down face to face with no other distractions… they talk and talk and talk… and not just about normal everyday stuff either – they bring out stuff that seems to have been saved for this special occasion. I always start out with warm up questions – the same ones almost every time, because I like to stay up on my kids *faves*.
They usually look something like this:
- What’s your favorite color?
- Favorite Song?
- Who would you consider to be your best friend and why?
- What is the funniest thing you have ever heard?
- Can you touch your tongue to your nose? (I always want to see them try something funny… taco roll your tongue, cross your eyes, fish lips, flip your tongue over, impersonate Elvis… and I do it too!)
After the serious questions above, lol, they open up… and you begin to learn all about your kids… things you never would have known about … like how something made them feel, a dream they really hope comes true, a story they overheard that they had a lot of questions about, how a certain remark you made to them in passing had been misinterpreted and needed clarification… and at the end of each date it predictably ends with a declaration of “This was the most fun thing we’ve done in a long time!”, “You’re the best mom ever!”, or “This was the best night of my whole life!” I always go to bed that night feeling more connected to my kids and really grateful we did it…
The nice thing about date night –
Although date nights generally start the same and often end the same… the middle is always different… what I learn about my kids in those moments is irreplaceable!
…and just in case you’re wondering – my daughter and I would rather have long braided armpit hair and smell good, while my son would rather have normal length armpit hair but have terrible body odor , lol…